Some types of ants (e.g. bull ants) are highly aggressive.

Clinical features

If your child has been stung by an ant, he may develop pain and swelling at the site of the sting. Ants can inject a type of venom via their sting, and they are able to sting several times.

Some children may be allergic to ant venom, and may develop a widespread rash, or difficulty in breathing. Some children have even been known to collapse.

Treatment

If your child only has mild pain and swelling, paracetamol may be given in recommended doses to ease the pain. If your child has a severe reaction to the sting, take him to your doctor immediately, or to the nearest children’s hospital. Make sure you remove the insect carefully first and if it is dead keep it for later identification by your doctor.

Bee stings

Bee stings have barbs on the end of them and they stay in the skin together with the venom gland (the bee dies after injecting the sting).

Clinical features

Your child will complain of severe pain at the site of the sting, and usually marked swelling develops rapidly. Children who are allergic to bee venom are at great risk of severe reaction to bee stings, and may develop a widespread rash, difficulty in breathing and may even collapse.

Treatment

Remove the insect carefully and if it is dead keep it for later identification by your doctor. Do not try to squeeze a bee sting out, as this will inject more venom into the wound. Scrape it off if possible. If your child has a severe reaction to the sting, see your doctor immediately, or go to the nearest children’s hospital.

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Now you are talking basic freedoms. You have the right to privacy, to do in private what you will with whom you will. If you feel inhibited by someone else’s encroachment on your life, you should act on that or ask for help to act on that. If any group of people deserves and has earned privacy, the dignity of continued personal and sexual development, it certainly is you. You have earned it much more than some thirteen-year-old in a parked car. Stand up for your sexual rights and the sexual rights of everyone in this room. Even if you don’t want to exercise those rights, they are yours for the choosing. Protect them.

“How can you have sex if you don’t feel good?”

How can you feel good if you don’t have sex? How can you feel good if you never touch and get touched, hold and get held? We have to stop thinking about aging as meaning not feeling good. Being sick is not automatically related to being older, and feeling active, alert, happy, and energetic depends much on behaving that way, and the same applies to sex. You will feel sexier if you keep on being sexual, and that in turn will help you feel generally better.

“Maybe you just don’t want to face it. Getting old means

getting high blood pressure, losing your memory, your ability to

get around and move around. It’s just a fact that you are trying to

romanticize away.”

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I don’t know why we fell into the habit of making love in the dark. We aren’t shy or anything. Maybe we’re too lazy to turn the lights on and

off.

Husband

You will not to be reading in bed in this new program, so candles or soft, full-spectrum lighting is recommended. James Ott, in his book HEALTH AND LIGHT, states, “we have finally learned that light it is a nutrient much like food, and, like food, the wrong kind can make us ill the right kind can help keep us well.” The reason for ” healthy lighting in your place for intimacy is not just so you can the beauty of your sexual interaction. Making love exclusively ^ the dark or with artificial incandescent lighting deprives us a natural sexual stimulant to the brain, to the pineal and pituitary “lands. Try to create natural, soft full-spectrum lighting for your room. Let your sexual life see the light.

Sexual Soundproofing

The only soundproofing that would work in our house would be a gag for each of us and lots of oil for the squeaky bed.

HUSBAND

Just as we suffer from lack of natural lighting, so we suffer from the constant pollution of noise. Listen now as you read this paragraph and you will detect constant humming, clicking, rattling house noises and outside noises of traffic and day-to-day living. Ask any parents and they will tell you that the one thing they want more than anything else in their house is quiet.

It is as important to keep noise out of your private place as it is to keep your intimate communication private. The only approach that seemed to meet both of these needs was to suggest to my couples a music system. Pick a system that is of sufficient quality to reproduce the full range of sounds from your favorite music. The couples reported that music free of a strong theme, vocals, and changes in beat or rhythm was the most pleasing. Your own tapes are much better than the radio, because they are free of commercials and tailored exactly to your tastes. Make your own set of super sex tapes together.

Some couples added extra sound insulation for the bedroom and others tried “white noise,” a system that creates a background that masks noise. A little creativity and effort can help you to keep your own natural sex sounds in and distracting noises out. Super sex requires sound nutrition to match your natural lighting nutrition.

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Just when I got established in my career, he wants to change his. When he first talked about women’s liberation, I knew he was getting ready to quit his job. Now he wants to work, I want to work, neither of us wants to parent. When I want to do something, he does. We just don’t match up right.

WIFE

We assume that life’s passages will be encountered by each of us in our marriages at the same time with the same ease. It just does not work out that way. There is really no such thing as a mid-life crisis, only a lifelong set of crises we are just now paying attention to. So it is with marriage. We assume that things will just “develop,” but they will not. We will enter phases of life differently, putting stresses on our marriages through our lack of understanding and tolerance of individuality.

Marriage vows sometimes say “until death do us part.” They should day something like “as we struggle together to renegotiate through the hundreds of changes we will each encounter together and separately.” Our vows of intimacy should reflect the assumption of constant change, learning a marital dance in which leader and follower are forever changing.

I tell my couples “never divorce someone you don’t know.” Many couples will not listen. They see divorce as an adjustment rather than an end. Sometimes therapists teach them that. They are wrong. Divorce often relates to marital inability to work through differences in developmental challenges, changes in readiness to parent, to work, to play, to rest, to love. Until American marriage sees that it is as cyclical as individual development, reflection, directing, and responding to our changes as people, it will tend to end “too soon” too often.

All marriages struggle with the individual differences of their partners as they go through their individual lives. You will learn that sex can be one of the best aids to carry us through differences in development. In fact, super marital sex can save marriage by teaching its partners to flourish in the changes and growth of both spouses.

We must learn to remarry a different and changing person several times during our marriage. We can choose to divorce and seek out dozens of transitional partners to match our changes, or use change to sculpt the marriage as an ever-changing artwork. Good marriages depend much more on being the right person than finding the right person. Experiencing developmental changes with someone else can be as exciting as it is difficult.

In a pre-fab, pre-developed, ready-made culture, we learn to look for pre-developed partners, already formed to match our own developmental stage at a given time. If our house is too small, we move. When we get too much stuff, we look for bigger and better places to keep it. We must also learn ways to get rid of some stuff, particularly psychological stuff, yet stay in the same house.

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Sir James Paget, a London surgeon, first described the condition which bears his name in 1877. Its cause is unknown.

It is rare before the age of 40 but then increases in frequency with age. By the age of 90 at least 10 per cent who have reached this age will have developed this condition in their bones.

Any bone of the body may be affected but it is more common in the skull, in the spine, in the pelvis and the leg bones.

The bones are thickened and yet are softer than normal. And when they bear weight the leg bones may bow outwards. Bone is not a stable tissue.

New bone is continually being laid down and old bone is being continually absorbed or removed by other cells.

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Yet there are large numbers of people who do not comply with their doctor’s instructions.

Surveys have shown that more than half of patients with high blood pressure and tuberculosis no longer attend their doctors a year after starting treatment. Of those who continue, less than a third take proper dosages as ordered.

Most patients who drop out are not convinced of the value of continuing. This may be partly the fault of doctors who do not explain fully the nature of an illness or the need for continued treatment. Sometimes it’s because the price the patient has to pay may be too high: not in money terms but in comfort.

Usually, high blood pressure produces no symptoms. But most drugs to control blood pressure have side-effects. It takes a convincing doctor to persuade a patient without symptoms to take a drug which may make him feel uncomfortable.

But this doesn’t fully explain why large numbers opt out and it is irrational for patients to complain that a drug failed to help them when they either didn’t take it or took it in an inadequate dose.

Many of these patients then turn to alternative therapies; they probably are just as lax in following instructions and become just as critical as they are of orthodox medicine.

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The rash starts on thw trunk but soon spreads to the face, the scalp and the upper parts of the limbs.

It may also involve mucous membranes and pock marks may develop in the mouth, the eyes and in the vagina.

The individual pock mark starts as a red spot which becomes raised, then a blister forms containing clear fluid. This breaks leaving a scab.

Sometimes the blister may be filled with pus.

Successive crops of pocks develop over several days or a week or two.

Chickenpox is infectious for one to two days before the onset of the rash and continues to be highly contagious until no new pock marks develop.

Sometimes the lesions develop secondary infection with bacteria and may then require treatment with antibiotics.

Occasionally, pneumonia may develop.

Another complication is encephalitis or inflammation of the brain. This may also occur with the virus infection of measles.

Shingles or herpes zoster appears to be due to reactivation of the virus lying in the tissues. It affects the sensory nerve cells in the spinal cord.

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I know one symptom that many people do not expect to be controlled is pain. This is not something that everyone with cancer gets by any means, but if it does occur it can be treated. Don’t just put up with uncontrolled pain. Ways of tackling it include radiation treatment, nerve blocks and many different painkillers. Your practitioner should be prepared to persevere in finding the right dose and type of painkiller for you.

Some patients don’t think it ‘right’ to ‘trouble’ their practitioner with family, emotional, financial and other such problems. You have a right to help and support in these areas. Your practitioner will be interested if he or she is treating you as a person, and not just a cancer. Don’t hesitate to ask. If your practitioner is not approachable and sympathetic, you may have to look elsewhere. Consider your local doctor, priest, social workers (through a public hospital, local council, or community welfare) or community organisations and self-help groups.

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